Are you aware that YOU are indeed Phenomenal? What are the skills and attributes that you possess that allow others to see you in your best light? These last few months I have realized that I know some of the most Phenomenal people in the world. There just aren’t enough words to describe the impact that they have had in my life… and for that I am eternally grateful. As we go about our days we have to work to embrace and uplift one another- we have to tear down barriers that block our blessings and stop us from really connecting to people.
My aunt has always told me that I should never let my “Blessings carry me where my Character can’t keep me” She simply meant… be Phenomenal in all that you do and blessings will follow you. I encourage you during this spring season to go out and be absolutely Phenomenal! Never settle for less, step out there and do what makes you happy and along the way make sure that you encourage someone else to do the same.
As I end this blog I want to take a moment to list a few of the Phenomenal people that I know, each of you have blessed me. Thank you.
To my Dearest Ashley Browning, so brave and so loving…thank you for being Phenomenal and blessing this Dayton community. You are a game changer. Love you.
To Yvonne, Stacey, Joey and Robyn all women of power and influence, walk in and embrace your best life, I would be lost without each of you in my life. You are Phenomenal.
To Kurt, you have inspired me more than you know. Thank you for being a phenomenal person in my life.
Psalms 32:5 NLT
“Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
I recently found myself in a place where I unpacked in guilt city. I allowed myself to revisit my past and focus on what I had done, who I had done it with and was beating myself up about it. It’s caused quite a bit of discouragement and disappointment, because I found myself asking those hard questions. “How could I continue to give my body to those men who didn’t deserve it and who weren’t my husband?”
“How could I let him treat me like that when I claim to be a Queen who does Queen things?” “How could I talk inappropriately when I claim I’m educated?” “How could I be mean and impatient when I claim I’m a child of God and made in his image?”
All of these hard questions came to mind because I’ve never confessed any of these things to God. I’ve always sinned, asked for forgiveness and moved on. I never allowed myself time to go before God to really heal and deal. When I truly became intentional about living my best life and chasing after God wholeheartedly I realized that it was going to take some work. Work that not only included being a better me today and in the future, but work that included me addressing those things of my past that I’ve tried so hard to forget. I’ve learned that the past is the past and regardless of what terrible decisions you’ve made and who you’ve made them with, you cannot change it. You can avoid it and act as if it never happened, but there will come a time where you’re faced to deal with the things you’ve tried so hard to forget. I’ve learned that it is better to address, heal and deal than to ignore, hide and run. The most amazing thing is that you’re connected to the plug...God! There are some things in my past that I will take to my grave that even my closest friends or family members will never know about. However, I also recognize that it still needs to be dealt with so that’s when God steps in and does his best work, because he knows EVERYTHING!
God loves us and the moment we confess with our hearts, he forgives us. However, learning to forgive yourself takes work as well, but it is necessary. Part of dealing with your past is learning how to forgive yourself and then walking in that forgiveness. I can attest to the fact that it is easier said than done, but there’s nothing too hard for God. You have to be willing to accept the things of your past, be willing to trust God and trust the process of dealing with your past and be patient because it’s not an overnight process. Truthfully, there’s no time limit, just an on time God. A wise woman once told me, “It happened, now what?” I believe that this statement applies to the things of our past. It happened, you can’t change it, but you can overcome it. Your past is not who you are, so overcome it and live your best life!
“The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited, or erased. It can only be accepted.”-Artist Unknown
Do you have the power to say sorry? And even more so do you have the ability to forgive?
Today, I was reminded that my pride was standing in the way of my ability to say that I was sorry to someone that I had wronged. So stubborn in my ways, I was allowing my pride to hold an anger about something that I had done wrong! Isn’t that crazy?! As humans, we will surely make mistakes that will undoubtedly hurt the feelings of another person- its just how life is and as we live and continue to grow we must “check” our actions and deeds. I was wrong. So, I swallowed my pride, got my thoughts together and I sincerely apologized. I knew what I said could have been said better and I needed to admit that and ask for forgiveness. If you know that you have offended your brother/sister GO! And ask for forgiveness. Release what you feel about it and do the right thing.
Now on the flip side, we also need to have the mindset to forgive… not that we would ever forget but we need to place our hearts open to those who want to say, “I’m sorry”. Sometimes people think if we hold the apology over someone’s head or we don’t accept the apology, we still have the right to be mad or make that other person beg for our forgiveness. Let me tell you by experience, if that is something that you have done, or you are currently doing then you are only hurting yourself. Forgive. For It’s truly the gift that you give yourself.
My point is that we as people can be just as stubborn to say sorry as we are to forgive. The next time that you are offered an apology, receive it, and whether you accept it or not- please be mindful that one day you too will have to give someone else an apology for there is not one of us without flaws. Live in the power that God has given you- treat others how you want to be treated and God will honor that.
What have you done to empower another person? Webster defines empower as : the act or action of empowering someone or something : the granting of the power, right, or authority to perform various acts or duties. When we have the courage to push someone else into their God given destiny, we also empower ourselves to do better as well. There is no one person on Earth, that operates solely on their own. We all need one another to get through this life. Today I had a conversation with a friend that empowered me to stand up for myself and protect what is important. While he was talking I felt a complete sense of fear take over me… internally I thought “How can I stand up for myself? & “What if this doesn’t work?” By the end of the conversation, even though I was still nervous… I was also empowered to take a step that I otherwise would have not done. I see empowerment as a form of encouragement- a simple step to tell someone “You can do it”. This next week or so take time to empower not only yourself but someone else as well, you just never know- you could be the person that helps move a person into their destiny.