NO is OK
Saying no is great and sometimes hearing no is even better.
I learned in more recent years that the people who are the busiest are also the people who get requested to do the most. This is because they are seen in many cases as reliable and they are the ‘go-getters’ that everyone wants to work with. The problem with being one of those people is that some days saying “no” can feel guilty. I do not consider myself a people pleaser but I do consider myself a supportive person. I always want to be there for my friends and then there is the work aspect where I like to keep myself aware of the happenings around the city and support others endeavors. I have literally been building a brand over the past few years where the entire goal is to support others, so yes, I believe that I need to show up. The problem arose when I got sick earlier this year. I literally said yes until I was sick and couldn’t trying to be everywhere supporting everyone. Ignore the signs of your body if you want to but eventually your body will win. It is okay to say no, when it’s the only day out of the month that you don’t have any commitments. It’s okay to sit on your couch and do nothing! It’s okay to say no, when there are overlapping events so you are leaving early or arriving late. It’s okay. I realized that I could support in other ways such as simply sharing the information with others that were looking for things to do. Your presence is amazing but your health (mental and physical) by far is more important.
Now when it comes to hearing, no, most people don’t like that. It means we are not getting our way. The simplest way to view this is that every no gets you closer to a yes. Sometimes hearing no, puts the fire under you that is necessary for you to grind that much harder.
All you have to do is believe that NO is a complete sentence, you don’t owe anyone an explanation and be okay with hearing it.
If there was not anything that I always wanted to do, it was to get an education. I was always reading and carrying a journal with me as a child. Learning and retrieving more knowledge was always more intriguing to me than pondering my life away in a menial job. When I graduated from high school, I took my first step in continuing my education and attending Alabama State University in Montgomery, Alabama. During the spring semester of my second year at Alabama State University, a representative for the Walt Disney College Program made a presentation on campus recruiting students to become interns for the Walt Disney College Program. After a call home to Ohio, getting the “ok” from mom, I was then headed to Orlando, Florida to work as an intern for the Walt Disney World College Program.
I arrived in Orlando, Florida in August and ended up extending my program for a second internship, as it was truly a once in a life time experience. After returning from the program in May, I attempted to return to Alabama State University, yet I was denied. My loans were in default, and apparently, I had owed Alabama State University for classes that I pre-registered for in the spring for the following fall semester that I did not attend. I was totally devastated. I had begun to get calls about repayment of my loans, but I was not even finish with school. I really just wanted to return to school.
I returned home to Ohio and began working at Burger King. I eventually went to school to get my STNA license and I worked for a STNA for five years, yet wanting to learn continued, the yearning for and education did not cease because I was unable to pursue it at the time; it made me yearn for it even more. I was introduced to Ashford University through a co-worker at a nursing home where I was working. Although it was not ideal, was not according to plan, and was not conventional, Ashford University gave me the opportunity to complete my Bachelor’s degree. One word, faith.
Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hope for, the evidence of things not seen.
What is faith? Faith is belief in the unknown. Faith is accepting something that you know with your intellect could not possibly be true, and through faith its true. Through faith we do not set aside our intelligences or ignore the research of science, yet we rely on the interrelationship between faith, hope, belief and trust. Faith is not giving up when the road seems so shallow and the intricate workings of life seems so bleak. Trusting in the Lord Almighty, believing that his will be done is faith. I’ve stepped out on faith. I’ve walked through faith. I continue my walk through faith.